Aim to create a calm environment for your discussion about finances.
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Before you begin, agree that you will not continue the conversation if it becomes heated.
If not, then I advise clients to do the right thing now and set each other up for a sustainable old age.
You both know that this will only make matters worse and increase the separation between you. Set a clear boundary around when to stop.
Not all couples can have the finance discussion without intervention. Those who are emotionally mature and who have taken the time to work through their ‘stuff’ are more likely to be able to reach some agreements on their own.
They then bring only what they cannot agree on to the mediation table, and this saves huge amounts of money.