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Divorce Financial

Preparation for the financial discussion when getting divorced

Aim to create a calm environment for your discussion about finances. Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash Before you begin, agree that you will not continue the conversation if it becomes heated. If not, then I advise clients to do the right thing now and set each other up for a sustainable old age. …

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Divorce Financial Marriage

Division of estates in divorce

It is imperative that both spouses know the full extent of their assets and liabilities. Photo by Pixabay from Pexels So often, the non-breadwinner has no idea of the true financial situation, leaving that side of the marriage to the spouse to deal with. But it is important to know about each other’s finances: what you each earn,…

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Financial Marriage

Marriage by design – The Prenuptial agreement

My advice to people before marriage is to take the prenuptial agreement seriously. Photo by Daniel J. Schwarz on Unsplash Don’t wait till the last minute before running to get the standard contract. Think about the contract as a document that is prepared during the happy days for if and when the bad days come.…

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Children Custody Divorce Financial

What people are surprised about when investigating the children and spousal maintenance budget

Many people have no idea how much their children actually cost, and when it comes to preparing a budget at divorce they are often surprised by the figures. Photo by Trong Truong on Unsplash When I get to the financial discussion with clients, particularly with reference to the children, I always ask them if they…

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Collaborative Custody Divorce

What I wish for clients before they start divorce proceedings

I wish clients would empower themselves before they start the process. I wish they would see that there is nothing wrong in feeling vulnerable, scared and angry, but that the way they act on those feelings is very important. Divorce can change your life forever, positively or negatively. Photo by Alex Green from Pexels Over…

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Adoption Children Interview Podcast

South African law and surrogacy

In this podcast, Karen Horstman, an expert on surrogacy law and a valued member of the team at Schuld Inc Attorneys, explains the legal complexity of surrogacy, an arrangement in which a woman carries and delivers a child for a couple or person whose permanent, irreversible condition prevents them from having their own child. Photo…

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Divorce Marriage

What to look for in a divorce attorney

The right divorce lawyer for you depends on what you need, and also on the personality and history of the marriage.  Photo by Damian Siodłak on Unsplash Sometimes you need a strong litigator, who can enforce boundaries. But if, as a couple, you have done the emotional work on fear, anger and resentment upfront, the…

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Article Collaborative Custody Divorce

Why I work in the field of family law

For the first part of my career I was in general practice, which I found uninspiring and taxing. I reached a point where I had to choose between the career and something else.  Photo by Heidi Fin on Unsplash By questioning my purpose in life, my journey of self-development began. I resonated with the qualities…

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Collaborative Custody Divorce

Steps to take and not take when deciding to divorce

One of the first steps in your divorce journey, is to obtain legal advice on your and your spouse’s legal rights. Both of you have rights. Keep this advice in mind in your divorce preparation.  Photo by Robin Schreiner on Unsplash It is however important NOT to instruct an attorney to issue divorce papers until…

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Divorce Marriage

Why is the choice between ego and soul important on the journey of divorce?

When you go through divorce you will experience a dark night of the soul. Intense emotions such as grief, anger, doubt and guilt may overwhelm you. Photo by Erika Fletcher on Unsplash You have a choice to make: whether to respond to all that is happening from a place of ego, or whether to find…