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Divorce Interview Podcast

Divorce with decency

In this podcast, Manndi talks to Lauren Doyle about the non-combative approach she and her ex-husband committed to in their divorce, and what she learned from the process. Photo by Ben White on Unsplash After 14 years of marriage, Lauren and her husband separated in November, 2018, but continued to co-habit for some months while…

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Divorce Marriage

Tips to protect life partnerships in the absence of Common Law Marriage

Matrimonial law has ongoing developments and changes. Photo by Alexander Suhorucov from Pexels Of particular interest now is the draft bill that will recognise religious marriages and long-term partnerships as deserving of the same protections as formal unions. The new legislation seeks to recognise all unions under one Act. The expansion of the definition of ‘spouse’ means that…

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Divorce Marriage

Couples Coaching

Marriage has developmental stages, but unfortunately, few people take this into consideration when the relationship shifts after the first few years. Photo by cottonbro from Pexels Couples coaching is different from therapy or counselling in that we focus on the future of the relationship rather than childhood hurts and traumas. In couples coaching you will identify what is…

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Divorce

Individual Divorce Coaching

Divorce is 80% emotions and 20% law. Photo by cottonbro from Pexels I am not a psychologist or a counsellor; I qualified as a consciousness coach in 2005 and since then I have been coaching and guiding my divorce clients from a much more humane place. As a divorce attorney for 25 years and a…

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Divorce Financial

Preparation for the financial discussion when getting divorced

Aim to create a calm environment for your discussion about finances. Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash Before you begin, agree that you will not continue the conversation if it becomes heated. If not, then I advise clients to do the right thing now and set each other up for a sustainable old age. …

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Divorce Financial Marriage

Division of estates in divorce

It is imperative that both spouses know the full extent of their assets and liabilities. Photo by Pixabay from Pexels So often, the non-breadwinner has no idea of the true financial situation, leaving that side of the marriage to the spouse to deal with. But it is important to know about each other’s finances: what you each earn,…

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Children Custody Divorce Financial

What people are surprised about when investigating the children and spousal maintenance budget

Many people have no idea how much their children actually cost, and when it comes to preparing a budget at divorce they are often surprised by the figures. Photo by Trong Truong on Unsplash When I get to the financial discussion with clients, particularly with reference to the children, I always ask them if they…

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Collaborative Custody Divorce

What I wish for clients before they start divorce proceedings

I wish clients would empower themselves before they start the process. I wish they would see that there is nothing wrong in feeling vulnerable, scared and angry, but that the way they act on those feelings is very important. Divorce can change your life forever, positively or negatively. Photo by Alex Green from Pexels Over…

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Divorce Marriage

What to look for in a divorce attorney

The right divorce lawyer for you depends on what you need, and also on the personality and history of the marriage.  Photo by Damian Siodłak on Unsplash Sometimes you need a strong litigator, who can enforce boundaries. But if, as a couple, you have done the emotional work on fear, anger and resentment upfront, the…

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Article Collaborative Custody Divorce

Why I work in the field of family law

For the first part of my career I was in general practice, which I found uninspiring and taxing. I reached a point where I had to choose between the career and something else.  Photo by Heidi Fin on Unsplash By questioning my purpose in life, my journey of self-development began. I resonated with the qualities…